Introduction:This is for women, with starry-eyes, which blind them to the real truth about marriage to a musician. The reasons are based on what I've observed and my personal experience. In all fairness, there exist as many reasons to marry a musician as reasons not to.
The first reason not to marry a musician applies to women who dread alone time. If your musician works, chances are he'll frequently travel. For your highest good, make a few trusted women friends and find a passion to keep yourself entertained, when he's on the road again.
I have a rich inner-life and a deep need for solitary time, so our marriage works. We're always excited to connect when he returns. I must admit, the energy in our home changes when he's gone.
Unless you marry an "artist" with gold records on his wall and a movie contract, you'll have to adjust to feast or famine. There are fat months and lean ones. Learn to stretch your dollars and save for hard times.
Here's an old musician joke. Q - How does a musician get a million dollars? A - He starts out with two million!
The musician's axe is the instrument he plays, i.e. guitar, bass, horn. His axe is his first, last and truest love. You can't compete with his axe.
A true story: Shortly, after we moved to Nashville a series of tornadoes roared through. We weren't experienced with tornadoes, but the news advised to "get into the bathtub". When I relayed this advice to my husband, he grinned and said, "I'm putting my axes in the bathtub. Where are you going to get?"
If you're a jealous woman, groupies are a compelling reason not to marry a musician. That and chick singers. Your music-man will constantly be admired by a gaggle of younger women, well-dressed women and man-hungry women. Chick singers travel on the same bus with the guys and think nothing of changing from street clothes to their stage outfits in front of "God and everybody".
With that said, my hubby is so tight with me, that he squeaks. I'm also not a jealous person, but if I were, he's never given me a reason to doubt.
Especially if you work a "day job", you may find yourself sleep-deprived. If your musician isn't doing a late gig (working), he's tied-up a majority of the night with a "project". I don't know how, but musicians function on little to no sleep. Also, when they're on the road, you must adapt and learn to sleep while he's gone.
Women, consider your selves forewarned about reasons not to marry a musician. If you love him, can't imagine life without him and can adapt to life with a musician, marry him. I did.
Still a wonderful read. Another h5 too!
fortuantely, I didn't start playing ukulele until after I got married...no time on the road in my immediate future...I'm not that good yet :)
These are all great reasons to avoid being with a musician, especially the "groupies"! H5!
Better you than me. Good list of dealing with a musician you love!
Awesome information women should be aware of before embarking on a committed relationship with a musician. I was married to a bass player years ago and all of the things you mentioned above were true. They might also want to know that traveling on the road with their musician, while it might be possible, might not always be possible. Especially when children come along someone's got to keep the home fires burning and that would of course be your job.
h5 list of a relationship with a musician.You mention things a woman needs to know before marrying a fellow who loves music first.
My son is a musician and on the road at least seventy five percent of the year with a successful Christian metal band. Your list is outstanding!
Good reasons but it isn't easy to choose who you fall in love with.
select one here...