When there is disappointment, one of the best things to do is to focus on something else other than that area that has adversely affected you. It might take a lot of strength that you did not know you had, but it is within you to rise above the doldrums of disappointment using your focus to an outside area. You might have to temporarily volley back to your disappointment to have a better handle on the situation to get the solutions, but don't linger too long since you can get bogged down and not actually find your solution in the journey.
Disappointment strikes just when it was not expected. In order to overcome that feeling think back in your own history. Ask yourself if there was ever a time you had been previously disappointed. The answer is probably yes. Realize at that time of realization that you lived through that and can learn how to overcome this disappointment in the same way as you did then. If you have an older mentor, ask that person about disappointment. If they are completely honest, there is some form of disappointment in everyone's life and they are no exception. Do not dwell on that area, but just be aware.
Clouds of gray do have a silver lining. You might have to really search for the glimmer of goodness in this disappointment. When you finally do see the brighter side of the disappointment, your solution might have already come to your mind. You might even have forgotten the intensity of that area in your life for a brief time. When you see the silver lining, you are more than half way to the solution to that disappointing episode from occurring again and again. Be hopeful and look outside your own area of hurt and pain. This will help you to discover the solution to your present condition.
If you think your disappointment is the only one ever experienced before, you are so wrong. If you do not believe that, start reading and listening to ancient occurrences. Your lot in life now has happened many times to countless others. Do not let the idea stay in your head that it has never happened to anyone else. This gives new hope to solutions you can research to discover how you can come out well from your event that has disappointed you. Songs are filled with problems of the singer or someone in that life. Books too, will reveal many disappointments.
You might think someone is perfect, but in fact there is no perfect person. Give the other person, who has disappointed you in some way, a different label than "perfect". That would be so difficult to live up to because it is not attainable for anyone on earth. To my way of thinking the only one who was perfect was
and he lives within us and no longer walks on the soil of this earth. Since there is no perfection on earth, realize your expectations of someone to be perfect can lead you to the solution to that disappointment.
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