Introduction:When friends die, it is hard thing for your mind to wrap itself around. I just lost a long time friend today and my mind does not want to embrace this news or believe it. How do you cope with the loss of a close friend? Everyone copes with death in their own way and the important thing is that you do cope with it and not ignore the emotions you may be feeling. Death is an enemy to the human mind, but yet, very much a part of life.
Too many people do not want to feel their emotions when a friend dies. A sudden death of a friend is even more difficult to feel and it may take your mind a while to catch up with the emotions welling up in your heart. Feel what you feel and don't be afraid of the emotions that come out. Our emotions are not bad and can help us to vent our grief and sorrow.
Crying over the death of a friend is a foreign emotion to some people and they might find themselves swallowing buckets of tears. Do not swallow those tears. They are meant to come and wash away toxins that build up in the bloodstream. Go on and get that box of tissue and let it out. Crying is healing.
Time seems to freeze and stand still when a friend dies. You want to do something but don't know what to do. Maybe you like to knit, do puzzles, bathe the dog, make a collage of pictures of you and your friend or even clean the house. Doing something close to normal helps to bring some order into the chaos in your mind and the shock of losing your friend.
It is therapeutic to reminisce and talk about your friend and the memories that you have stored up in your mind. Look at pictures and tell another friend or family member the story in that picture. Talking is good when you are feeling it.
When my good friend died a few years ago, I was not able to say goodbye and it bothered me a lot. I had things that I wanted to say to her, so I got on my computer and typed her a long letter. It was my way of sharing everything in my heart to her and I kept it for moments of looking back. It helped me quite a bit.
I have hope to see my good friend again one day in heaven, so I do not grieve without hope. So glad to know that there is that hope of seeing my good friend again, someday.
Very inspirational list.
I know your pain. I believe another thing we can do is to live our life more purposeful in honor of our friend. I too, know we will meet again. Sorry for your loss but thanks for this list that is helpful.
Thanks friends..you are all caring people.
My condolences for your loss. You are so caring to help others cope with this well presented list. True and heartfelt steps to heal.
I'm sorry about your friend - it's always difficult to deal with death of anyone but it is, sadly, a part of life. You handled the topic well.
Very nice list on coping. Great job with this.
These are excellent thoughts on how to cope with the death of a friend. It is always so difficult when someone we love and admire dies.
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