In all families, whether people admit it or not, there are obstacles to overcome. Quite simply everyone thinks things different when they leave the nest and begin on their own. My first daughter was the first born and so the requirements from her father were not within normal limits. My first daughter's father was an alcoholic, so the treatment, even when I was not around was one of proportions that should not have been put in her life. When I was around I could soften these traits and my former husband knew I would not permit him to expect unobtainable goals for his first daughter when I was looking. My first daughter overcame, grew up leaving home when she was barely 18 years old. I admire her personal goals she set and sought for herself in spite of the family obstacles she had for her life at home.
As I mentioned in the first list, my first daughter set out on her own when she was barely 18 years old. This in itself is admirable since many children leave the home and still have their lives connected to home life in a very strong way. My first daughter's heart was still that of a home body, but she set out from rural Montana, where she grew up and journeyed to Los Angeles, California to seek her purpose of making a living. She did not have a place to stay, nor did she have a job waiting for her. I admire my first daughter's homesteading attitude that "I will succeed", and she did succeed.
My first daughter's good sense lead her to find a place to stay at a price she could afford. She looked for a job and found one in the area of travel where she intended to secure work. All this was done in less than a week of arriving in California. I admire and I am so proud of my first daughter's path she took and achieved her goals she set out to live. From the beginning, my first daughter knew I encouraged her to follow her dream, but she also knew it would be difficult for me as a mother to see her go out on her own. She reassured me she would be just fine. I admire that in my first daughter too.
My first daughter knew from her journey to California that she had to seek further education to get the job she wanted for life, which was that of a flight attendant. She attended a travel school away from home that allowed her to learn so much more that would prepare her for the future as a flight attendant. My first daughter excelled and was Valedictorian of her travel school class. She began as a flight crew person with Continental Airlines. She learned about Delta Airlines hiring and went to Georgia for consideration and to apply for a flight attendant with them. She was hired on the spot and moved to Kentucky where she would be based out of Cincinnati, Ohio. Wow, was I proud of my first daughter's career and how she would help people in their travels.
Life has not been a simple or easy one for my first daughter. She was quickly labeled mother #2 since bother her sister and brother were younger than her and often would go to her for motherly advice. That is common among siblings. It is rare that a big sister is as great at giving that advice to siblings as my first daughter was and still is. My first daughter has had to make some really difficult choices in her 48 years. More importantly I admire her choices she continually makes for herself, the people in her life and those who barely know of her great characteristics. Everyone should have a first daughter like mine to be proud of in all they do.
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