Introduction:It's very difficult not to have some disagreements in a relationship. Misunderstandings can and will occur in a marriage or courtship. It's not a question of if disagreements will occur but when, and how they are handled. Here are the top five ways to curtail those inevitable disputes.
As difficult as it might be for you to admit, you're not right all the time. Eliminate the need to be right in every dispute, because no one is correct 100% of the time. There are times when, even if you are 90% sure that you have the correct information and your spouse or mate does not, you should bite the bullet and acquiesce.
Honestly ladies, from a male perspective, we don't really understand the extreme agitation over letting the seat down. But, to squash a potential verbal sparring match, guys, let the seat down. Your lady could accidentally sit on that cold porcelain and get really pissed at you, so just get in the habit of letting the seat down. Why she can't just put the seat down, like we lift the seat every time we do "number one," is an unsolved mystery. Maybe we need to channel the late Robert Stack on this one.
Wikipedia defines narcissism as "the personality trait of egotism, vanity, conceit, or simple selfishness." It further states, "The name 'narcissism' was coined by Freud after Narcissus who in Greek myth was a pathologically self-absorbed young man who fell in love with his own reflection in a pool." You must have the ability to place yourself in the shoes of your significant other. As a doting parent has the emotional wherewithal to check on her child while he's sleeping, just to see if he's OK, so must you exhibit that same trait consistently with someone who is supposed to be the love of your life.
Oftentimes you can tell when a discussion is about to go south. If you are really in tune with the situation and realize you've been down that road before, the smart move would be to simply walk away. Don't storm off, or make an acerbic comment as you walk away, just leave the immediate room and go somewhere to collect your thoughts.
Your mate will have a hobby or two that you may not like but it's important that you respect his passion as long as it is not taking away from his responsibilities as a husband, father, and provider. You and your mate will have varying differences of opinion regarding some insignificant and some significant issues. Nonetheless, the underlying resource that will strengthen your bond is having mutual respect for those differences. Respect her space by not crowding her, especially when you are well aware that she may be in that place where she really doesn't want to be bothered. That's not going to happen often (if it does you may want to seek the assistance of a counselor), but when it does, give her some room.
I particularly agree with your comment about respecting hobbies and differences. I love my wife very much, but I like to have time to myself sometimes. I also like to encourage her to do things. She loves exercising and recently took up cycling. Though I worry about busy roads and bad traffic, I try to hide those worries to let her enjoy her new found interest.
Great advice! H5
What do you mean I'm not always right?! You don't know me! hehe.. Just kidding!! Great advice if I should ever have a spouse again, I will remember this or refer back to it :) Great list! Happy New Year!
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