Introduction:First dates can sometimes be tricky and tough but if you let yourself stop trying to make everything perfect and relax, your first date can actually turn into an enjoyable experience that you will think of with a smile even if things don't work out and you realize he is not your Mr. Right.
First of all, make sure you understand and remember that the first date is not even a real date. Try to see it as some kind of a touchstone where you just get to know more about each other without turning a friendly conversation into an interview. The secret of enjoying the situation that potentially might be awkward is very simple: you need to feel comfortable with what is going on.
Even though it might seem very romantic to go with the flow, this approach mostly works for love movies while in what we call "real life" spontaneity can put you in a situation where you and your date are blankly staring at each other in an awkward silence. It is always a good idea to think what topics would be appropriate and interesting to discuss with this particular guy. Another good idea is to include some kind of an event into your perfect date plan (a movie, concert, museum or just a walk). This way you will definitely have something to share your opinions about instead of just sitting there and baring your souls all evening.
Make sure that things you are going to talk about don't include your personal problems. Remember that this handsome man is your date, not your therapist. Keep your flaws to yourself until you feel like he is deeply interested in your life and don't forget that the main idea of the date is to have a good time.
Take a moment to let him know if you would like to see him again. There are many ways to let him know you enjoyed your time together and to find out if he felt the same: you can call, email or text him instead of walking around with "Will he call me again or not?" in your head for days.
And finally, even when things seem to go well, try to be prepared for rejection: as we all know, sometimes it happens (and it always hurts). Even if you are upset don't forget that this is not a major loss on your part but a chance to move on and look for somebody who is right for you. It is much better to part ways with the wrong person after the first day than waste months or even years of your precious time.
Those are five very simple steps that will allow you to relax, feel less stressed and just be yourself during your first date. This way the whole idea of dating is a lot more pleasurable and productive. Try to enjoy it!
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