Way back when I was a child, so fifty plus years ago, my mother made a cake, bought some ice cream and told me to invite 3 friends over for a birthday party. Those children brought me simple gifts like a book or crayons, nothing expensive and nothing fancy. No one broke the bank to throw the party or to attend it either. Now a theme has to be thought of before the planning even gets going. The theme is expensive no matter how you tone it down. Advertisers know moms will go with what the children are into and boy do they make a bundle with matching plates, napkins, tablecloths and decorations.
When I first moved into my existing home my daughter, the wonderful interior decorator, offered to help me put my house together. I really thought she'd unpack boxes and hand me things and presto I'd be moved in lock stock and barrel. As soon as she looked at the inside of the house, she knew she had work to do. She asked me what theme I wanted for my home. I said "What?" She repeated "What theme do you want for your home?" I told her I heard her the first time, but just did not believe what I was hearing. My daughter moved me in and my home has no theme.
What is this theme thing? Everyone needs to have a theme for living, a theme for graduation parties and now even a theme for a wedding. I am just waiting for someone to tell me there has to be a theme for a funeral when I die. I a telling my relatives I want no theme at my wake. I want to RIP and without a theme. If there is a party after I am cremated, that party will not have a theme if I have anything to do with it. Oh wait, I will be dead so won't have a say at all.
Is a theme for a baby like deciding if it is a boy room or a girl room? What happened to the old days when you just believed God would give you the sex you needed. Every birth was a surprise. You would pick two names out; one girl's name and one boy's name. Who ever showed up from the birth canal was the lucky one to grab the name selected for their sex. If there was more than one, no reason to worry, just think of a name and theme never entered into the scheme of things. That is until the 2000's arrived to make everything a theme.
Now the theme idea has permeated every walk of life it seems; even the churches are talking themes. When a smart gal is in charge of a pot luck dinner, the theme is talked about with the first words out of her mouth. Theme is going to be--- and she states her ideas. Everyone sitting or standing within ear shot oks or makes some funny ok sound and the theme is set. The senior people think they just missed a vote of some sort when they really missed more than that, but are completely out of the theme loop altogether. They go along with it so they don't sound stupid asking what the theme thingy is.
I love it! I too remember growing up, getting married, having kids and living in homes without themes. I enjoyed reading your thoughts. HI5
My 91 year old grandmother would agree with all of your points. As a mother of young children, I realize we live in a different world than back then. Themes aren't ridiculous or extravagant, just a fun way to have a party, decorate a room or plan a baby shower.
I loved this list, especially #2 and #4. I can identify with both. I am not a theme kind of gal, either.
Well done on this list. I found it very interesting. Thanks for sharing.
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