Letters that are written have many healing points for you. Check with your counselor, if you are seeing one before working on these notes. Take needed breaks as often as you have to, so you will remain in the present and know you will heal from this life altering event of a suicide by a loved one. Explain to the loved ones, who are living with you, in your life what you are doing while you write your letters. They can console and comfort you as you complete your messages to the person who took their life. The suggestions do not have to be followed in any specific order so if you want to do one before the other; do that.
Letter of Annoyance
Write a letter to the person who committed suicide telling them all the reasons why you are annoyed with them for taking their own life. Be prepared to not be able to complete this note in one sitting because of the emotions that will surface making it difficult to easily compose each of your reasons. Use your computer, laptop or write this on paper. Keep this private or share with those you choose.
Letter of Events
Recall good and sorrowful events that you recall about the person who committed suicide. Start anywhere you wish without requiring yourself to be complete with the events you state. Use as few or many words as you want to describing both of these.
Remember the love you have for the person who committed suicide while you write them a love letter. State little and huge loving things you recall that your loved one showed they loved you while they were living. Express your love in this note.
With a pen and paper or type write a forgiveness letter with your words allowing the person that committed suicide to know your thoughts. Understanding might not be known why life was cut short which is why you give forgiveness from your heart and not your head.
Good Bye Letter
You can put this good bye letter in any form you wish telling the person who committed suicide a final farewell. Your written thoughts can be broad or specific. These words of good bye allow you detachment but in no way completely remove the person who committed suicide from your heart.
When you have compiled these letters, put them aside until you want to read them again. You might never want to read them all, yet want to read parts of some of them. A day will come when your wounds are not so fresh which is when you could consider burning the paper letter or deleting the notes from the computer where they are located.
This is so wise and true! I have a friend who had two husbands commit suicide and I just posted this on my Facebook wall for anyone who needs it. She for sure, does. This could also be applied to anyone who has died and the had no closure, like my ex and me. Thanks~
This seems very therapeutic. Suicide has to hurt the survivors. A jovial distant relative's son committed suicide back in the early 80s. He was about 13 and overweight. I wish I could have said better things to the mother, something like this. But we were so uninformed about that type of thing then. Great list.
As with every word you commit to paper, you have written a sensitive compelling list about letters to help heal from a suicide. However, will you kindly permit me to debate #1? Personally, I should be more than annoyed with a loved one that chose suicide. Except - when pain heightens to become an unbearable burden. In today's society this should never happen, but we know it does. However, this is solely my opinion and doesn't detract from the quality of your list points. HI5
This is a very good list of things to do to heal a broken heart from a suicide. I'm sure that this will help those in need of a depressed and angry person who has lost someone from suicide. There are so many different emotions that come from a lost one. Thanks for the tips, these are great tips to remember. Prayer is also a great healing point as well as the ones listed above. High 5 for the great list of things to do to try to heal.