While the topic of human psychology, and all of the myths we men believe about women is a little too complex for a simple list format, there are still some tips that can be shared here. The main thing is getting the opportunity, is that not so? How on Earth can a man hope to find that one special woman, if he doesn't know how to meet a woman?
Before you have a relationship, you need to get to know each other. Before you get to know each other, you need to get that first date. So, considering it's difficult to cover all of the other variables involved (like spilling your drink and jealous jerk ex-boyfriends) here are five tips on how to meet a woman. The author is an expert, and highly recommends you try this at home.
Shave, shower, and take care of those teeth. Just do it - regularly. While you're there in front of that bathroom mirror, do something about that ear and nose hair, too. If you're insisting on a beard or goatee (some women do love them after all), trim it up.
Keep your mustache trimmed, too, if you have one. Many women have told me they're immediately repulsed by the sight of a flavor-saver, so give it up. A little bit of "tickle" is fine by many women, but really, at least make the effort to look as good as you're insisting she does. Fair is fair.
To get rid of unpleasant body odor, scrub down and rinse three times in the shower. The smell of a sweaty man might be "sexy" after a game of racquetball, but not three days after a game of racquetball. Trim and clean those nails, too.
Cologne? Sure. But don't over-do it. If you're not sure of the scent that works for you, ask a female friend, relative, or even the lady down at the department store. You'll be surprised by the number of women who even seem a little interested in a guy who truly values their opinion. Trust me on this. You should always value their opinion on things like this.
You don't need to be a "fashion-plate" to look good. At the very least, wear good condition clothes, and for goodness' sake please learn how to match colors. If you're not a stand-up comic, in character at the time, plaid and pin-stripes will not do anything but hurt her eyes and your chances of getting a date.
Shoes. How often do we guys think about our shoes? Women notice small details and shoes, to us guys, are a small detail. If they're not new, at least try to keep them clean. Sometimes a job might require certain footwear, and that's cool. But that doesn't mean there needs to be cow-poop and mud on your feet come Friday night.
A nice watch doesn't hurt, either. It doesn't have to be terribly expensive, but should look good. Again, if you're as clueless as Cletus, ask for tips from women you know. Find that helpful gal at the department store, if you must.
Just try and be a little bit of fun. Too goofy and silly, and you'll look like an immature little boy. Too serious, and you're suspected of being a serial-killer. There's a difference between humor and joking.
While you might not want to be "hard," you also need to remember that, a part of the date process is to determine if you think she's right for you. Don't give away all of your power by being a boot-licker. You can be fun, and mature, all at the same time.
Don't "settle," either. If she's not right for you, or treats you badly, send her packing. Just walk away. Loneliness is no excuse to let yourself be walked into a bad relationship with an incompatible partner. You'll meet another, which brings us to...
I once knew a guy who had a date, every, single Friday night. I asked him how he managed to do it, and he told me, "I ask ten women out. Nine say no." Blown away, but believing him, due to obvious results, I tried it.
It wasn't long before I realized most women are quite used to being asked out. So hearing "no" wasn't a big deal. In fact, some of those ladies were only saying no because they were already involved. Some of them are now my best friends, too.
(Take my word for it on this guys: Women are some of the best friends a man could ever want. Cherish them, too, and you will learn much.)
That friend of mine? He must have gone out with 50 women in a year's time. He's now happily married to a beautiful woman, and three little angels call him "Daddy." So don't get discouraged when it doesn't pan out with any one woman. you only want to obsess over your "ideal" woman, and not any one individual.
By the way, it's not "cheating" to sign up for a dating club (online or off), ask for introductions, or simply asking a woman you happen across if she's single. Just be honest, and give yourself the advantage.
Just as soon as you apply anything you learn here about meeting a woman, you're going to meet women, who claim to prefer everything but what you learned here. These are just basics. Like every man, women are individuals, with their own tastes, preferences, prejudices, and flaws. One size most definitely does not fit all.
Expect the unexpected, and try to keep an open mind. To find that one, wonderful, loving partner, you may even find yourself meeting a different culture, race, or even religious belief. All of that stuff is just surface material, and "beauty" is subjective anyway.
Sure, rising to the challenge of meeting that one, worthwhile, trustworthy woman takes effort. It's worth it, though. Make the investment in yourself, and you will be rewarded richly, when you do meet her.
Had to look!
I know you said men only but your advice is pretty much right on. Flexibility and don't take a no as a rejection. Good stuff.
Well then WorkHomeUnion, they're not worth chasing. Just walk away from someone that inflexible. It's not worth that sort of abuse.
Gosh, I know a kid I could pass this along to...
Flexibility and "religious beliefs," living in the South (Atlanta), most women are very inflexible when it comes to their religious beliefs. If you're not a "God-fearing" Christian, most won't have anything to do with you.
Danged ol' Boomhaur made Akbar laugh.
This pretty much covers it! I remember on King of The Hill step 4 was Boonhower's secret. Young Bobby was shocked at how many times he was rejected. But hey, you don't know if you don't ask, and it's not like they know you well enough to be actually judging you anyway. It's more like their "no" isn't rejection, it's "I'm not available," so don't take it personally.
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