Hate your job? Find it harder and harder to get up in the morning and get yourself to your gray cubicle? If so, you are in good company. Millions of people stay at depressing jobs because of a bad economy, lack of time to job search, fear of the unknown, lack of self confidence, and for many other reasons. Here's some strength to help you cope.
Forget your work life on the weekends, and even all your lunch breaks. Get out into the world and develop your life outside of work. Keep reminding yourself of the big world beyond your company, office building, and cubicle. The world is a big playground waiting for you to discover it. The more you establish your "life outside work," the more you have to look forward to and think about. Your troubles and bad feelings about work will no longer dominate your every thought.
Make it a priority to practice extreme self care. Don't stay up late on the internet every night. Don't run late every morning and arrive at work with wet hair. Don't go to Burger King at lunch and pig out on leftover crap from the VP's luncheon in the afternoon, just because it is free. Don't wear black dresses and ripped nylons, or polo shirts and baggy khakis, to the office just because you don't want to draw attention to yourself if you wear new clothes. The better you treat yourself, the more doors will open for you and better things will come your way. Try it, it may work.
Treat yourself in the best possible manner you can. You deserve it. You put yourself through hell every day to support yourself and your family (if you have one). You get up early, do your best work, go home, and do it all again the next day. So try not to beat yourself up because you feel you put yourself in this position, or because you are not making six figures like your stupid boss who is ten years younger than you are and who just has a bachelor's degree compared to your master's. Remind yourself continually of your extraordinary talents. Engage in activities that promote your self-esteem.
Get up every 60 minutes. Go get a cup of tea in the kitchen. Take a quick walk around the building. Step outside and take a few deep breaths. Go to the bathroom. Subscribe to a blog with your work email and take time to read the daily blog update. If your email is monitored, you could always say it is spam. And you aren't accessing the internet for personal usage, either. If you break your workday up into segments, the day goes by faster. Become creative with your 3-minute or 5-minute breaks (even take 1 minute if that's all you can). Meditate. Stretch. Update your diet diary. Keep a list of things to do, or goals, in a locked file on your computer and update it daily with notes, accomplishments, etc. Massage your hands with herbal lotion. Look out the window. Get up and walk anywhere for one full minute, then reverse direction and go back to your seat.
Remind yourself that your job means $xxx a week, nothing more. It is no indication of who you are or what you are capable of. If someone is mistreating or disrespecting you, don't internalize it and think you are deserving of that treatment. Other people's behavior has nothing to do with you. The world is full of all types - mean people, evil people, immature people, jealous people, and condescending people. Avoid people who cause you pain as much as possible, or compartmentalize them in your mind so they don't affect you. Work is work. It isn't a social club and you have no obligation to be personal friends with anyone at work.
Great list and when people need the reasons for staying they can read your points.h5
Good list. Thanks for sharing.
Thanks for the tips on staying at your current job. H5!
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