Often we are our own worst enemy when it comes to being happy. Think about the goals that you set for yourself or the standards that you set for yourself. Are they realistic? Would you expect the same from others? Also, take some time to think about the origins of these thoughts. Do you put preassure on yourself because these are your true goals and wants? Or are you still trying to fulfill the wishes of others? Do you think that other people are judging you or are expecting something from you? Think back and ask yourself if that person ever actually told you they expect that from you, and then think if it is a reasonable expectation. If it is not, then let it go, realize that you are being unfair to yourself and give yourself permission to be the you that you want to be.
Smile, even when you don't feel like smiling. Forcing yourself to smile actually tricks your brain into thinking that you are happy. So when you look at your self in the mirror in the morning crack a big smile, not only will you trick your brain into thinking that you are happy, but you will also look better, which will make you feel better about yourself.
One of the best ways to be happy is often one of the hardest to begin. Exercise releases endophins which in turn make you happy. So no matter how sad or depressed you feel, force yourself to get out and get some exercise. Find something fun to do, exercise does not have to be a chore. Go to a park, play frisbee, go golfing, go for a walk around the mall, go for a walk or a bike ride with friends or a loved one. Just find something that you enjoy doing and get your blood pumping.
Always giving to others and never taking time for yourself is a sure way to burn out. At least once a week take some time for yourself to do something you truely enjoy. Commit to yourself that time and keep your promise, whether it is an hour or a whole day, and during that time don't allow yourself to think about anything except having fun. Put all your problems on hold and just relax. Read a book, start a new hobby, go to a park, get a makeover, anything that you truely enjoy.
Take some time to really think about why you are unhappy, are your problems really that bad? Are there solutions? Are there people out there who are worse off then you? Then take some time to think about the positive things in your life. Make a list of the things that you are grateful for, and when you are feeling blue, bring out that list and remember that you have things to be happy about.
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