Introduction:Hippies, bohemians, and free-spirits have been around for a long time, long before there were labels to even identify them. Now, there are modern hippies, bohemians, and free-spirits emerging all the time; there are kids that maybe don't fit in or are simply unique that will grow up to be full on hippies, bohos, and free-spirits in adulthood. Here are some signs that your child is a hippie, bohemian, or free-spirit (or wants to become one) and a little advice on how you can support them.
Room decor for hippies, bohemians, and free-spirits can vary for sure, but a lot of time young people are interested in particular items. Some examples: door beads, lava lamps, glow-in-the-dark stars, planets, unicorns, rainbows, etc., anything with peace signs or tie dye on it, bean bag chairs, a bed canopy, crocheted blankets, etc. They may also have (or ask for) lots of candles, incense burners and incense, and dishes of potpourri. (If patchouli is involved, they're leaning towards hippie.) To keep a healthy relationship with your child, allow them to have creative freedom in their room, as long as they don't do anything too damaging that can't be easily (and cheaply) repaired in case you ever want to sell. This way, they can have a creative outlet, help themselves feel special and different, and love spending time at home in their room; AND they will trust that their parents accept them. If kids feel that they can trust their parents because they feel accepted and understood by their parents, they will be much less likely to hide things from you or try to sneak to do things behind your back. These are all good things. (Another bonus: I bet the room will be a sweet, cozy, hang-out den when it's done. Just burn some aromatherapy candles and relax while they're at school!)
Are your kids exploring Eastern religions? Are they talking about peace and love? Are they of the belief that "working for the man" is NOT what they want to do with their lives? Are they thinking of becoming a vegan all of a sudden? Does everything have to be "eco-friendly," "organic," or "free-trade?" Well... you may have a hippie, bohemian, free-spirit child on your hands. A lot of this change begins when the teenage years come about (the already present feelings of rebellion help this to happen I think...). Be prepared. Not to argue with them, of course, but to listen to their views, ask questions, share your views, and bond. If you argue, you will just shut them down, but if you treat them with respect, truly listen, and share your beliefs calmly, you will do far more good in the long run; for your child's moral development and for your relationship with your hippie, bohemian, free-spirit child.
If they are wearing (or wanting) eco-friendly, vintage, used, homemade, or just plain crazy clothing... they may be a modern hippie, bohemian, free-spirit child. Some examples: Bell bottoms with patches on them, long skirts and dresses, tie-dye, vintage band t-shirts, scarves, beanies, lots of costume jewelry, peace signs, buttons, cool sunglasses, shawls, ponchos, capes, patchwork skirts, polyester, granny sweaters, moccasins, sandals, skirts made from old jeans, macrame anything, and going barefoot, shirtless (for boys), and bra-less (for girls). Careful though, some bohemians will be fashion fiends, leading their schools into the future of fashion with each new outfit. They may not wear any of the things I listed in the example. They may wear them all... but they are harder to spot. In any case, if you CAN determine by dress that your child is a hippie, bohemian, or free-spirit... what do you do? Well, as long as they are dressing in a manner that covers their body enough to be appropriate for school, let them wear what they want! When it verges on inappropriate, THEN put your foot down, and just let them know that you want people to respect them, and if they are dressed in a way that doesn't even show respect to themselves, no one else will respect them either.
You may hear your child talking with their friends. Words like "dude" will probably come through, as will long, deep talks about the world, love, music, literature, philosophy, movies, people, religion, politics, and self. Most of your child's friends will probably be "creative types." I'm talking artists, photographers, musicians, models, writers, poets, dreamers, philosophers, actors, cooks, gardeners, and dancers. Some may play sports, some may be in academic clubs and competitive teams; but most will be in art, dance, band, theatre, choir, and volunteer organizations. Some may be "good kids" and some might be the "bad kids." Remember, they are all still just kids. Besides, the bad kids are usually one of three things: 1. They are your child's "reform project." If they are a hippie, bohemian, or free-spirit... they may often try to help and reform people... even without their knowledge of it. 2. They are your child's significant other. Hippies, bohemians, and free-spirits are drawn to rebels, bad boys, biotches, ganstas, and other hippies, bohemians, and free-spirits. Maybe they're trying to reform them. Maybe they like the excitement. Maybe they're not a "bad kid" after all... who knows... 3. They are a drug dealer. This is why it is important to have your child's trust. If you want to keep your kids off drugs, knowing who they are with, where they are, and when they are or are not supervised is so important. If they trust you, they will tell you all these things, bring their friends over more (where you can watch them), and tell you if they get offered drugs. You can help keep your kids off drugs just by knowing their friends and having their trust.
They are suddenly all about coffee and tea. They do yoga. They light incense and meditate. They listen to Phish for hours in the dark with their lava lamps going. They read books about hippies, bohemians, and free-spirits, they're obsessed with poetry, they paint, even though they don't know ANY technique, and they won't stop watching Rent! Or maybe they are sewing purses, crocheting ponchos, and making hemp necklaces for their friends. Perhaps they are seeing how long they can go without cutting their hair, shaving, or trimming their sideburns. Maybe they've asked to make a compost pile out back. Or maybe they're writing the next great novel on their laptop while sipping an Italian soda in the corner cafe and finding out which era they SHOULD have been born in on Facebook. (I'm sure we can all guess the results...) Whatever their interests, as long as they are not hurting themselves or the people around them, let them explore and figure it all out.
For some kids, this could all just be a phase. But for other kids, who are more like I was, it is not a phase; it is them discovering their true self. Support them, love them, and show them that it's okay to be different.
LOL Great list! H5
This SO describes my daughter, and I am so proud of that lol! She is a hippie bohemian free spirit to the core :) Thanks for a great article :)
I LOVE this! You really put it together in an auspicious manner. Kudos. Hi5
I am not surprised to see such a great h5 list about Bohemian kid ideas here. Well done and thank you for these signs.
This is a fun list. It is funny how what goes around comes around.
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