Getting out of a long term or even a short-lived relationship can be one of the most gut-wrenching things we go through in our lives. The mixture of negative feelings involved can be overwhelming. You may cast false blame upon yourself or lose weeks of sleep wondering what you did wrong. Below are 5 ways to help with the recovery process in the difficult time that follows a breakup.
That's right. Stay in bed and cry until you can't cry anymore if you feel like it. Think about the relationship you had with your EX and everything involved if you want. Even the good times. I believe if you truly want to get over someone or to achieve a goal of any sorts, you have to allow yourself some time up front to ponder and prepare for the difficult road ahead. Whether it be a few days of thinking and crying or even months. Just like quiting anything cold turkey, immediately trying to recover from a relationship is very difficult to sometimes impossible.
Even after the time spent getting everything out of your system, you'll still have the occasional moment of wanting to contact your EX. Usually it's when your alone or have nothing to do. Try avoiding these moments by doing something productive. It can be anything. From reading a new book, exercising, finding a new recipe on-line you can cook, etc. Yes these occasional moments can be hard to overcome, but just remember - anything is possible. Especially when you're determined.
If you were on the receiving end of the break-up, you might have thoughts that your EX will change his/her mind and want to return to you. Don't! I've fell victim to this same thing numerous times. What will happen will happen. Just don't stress over it. Don't (and I repeat Don't) go out of your way and try to impress your EX if you know of a certain party, etc. . . that you know they'll be at. You'll just feel even worse afterwards and you'll have relapsed a bit on your overall goal which is of course to get over your failed relationship with your EX.
When you feel well enough to branch out and meet new people - then by no means limit yourself. Whether it be a concert or even a book club. Don't stress over finding a new significant other, just try and meet people you may have things in common with. It can anybody. You never know - you could also meet people who could turn into future best friends. Keep your mind open and stay positive.
This step should be balanced throughout the entire goal. Just because you had a relationship that failed, doesn't mean it was your fault. Focus on ways on how to better yourself in the long run. Get a new haircut, eat healthier, have a marathon of your favorite actor's movies. It can anything. Just remember - You're an awesome person that someone one would love to call their own in the future. You may not meet this person next month, or even next year, but when the time is right - you'll know. Never lose hope, but in the meantime - it's your time. Enjoy life and also enjoy yourself. Life is too short to worry about failed relationships and why they didn't work.
Getting over a failed relationship is hard. These 5 ways/steps will still take a quite a bit of time to master, but with some focus and drive - it can be done. Don't give up even if you have a few lapses here and there - it happens. Just remember to pick yourself up. Also as tired and worn out as the phrase "time heals everything" is - it's true. Be patient and be true to yourself during your goal to overcome a failed relationship.
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