Ways to Lose Friends

Relationships - Friendships

By: goodselfme 21-Jul-2012

Speak For Your Friends

One of the best ways to lose a friend is to volunteer them before you talk to them and get their permission. When you speak for your friends and not let them make their own decisions, there is a good possibility you will lose that person as a friend. If you are fortunate enough not to lose that friendship and receive a warning instead, there is a need to learn from that lesson and consider yourself lucky to not have lost that friend.Somewhat annoying trait of saying things before someone has a chance to say them themselves is a good way to lose a friend.

Gossiping About That Friend

No one tolerates gossiping very well. When a friend has found out you have been saying things about them that are not nice and are not true, you can probably kiss that friendship good bye. Think about how you would feel if a friend did that action to you. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you is a good golden rule to follow with friends.Gossiping spreads like wildfires so it is not very long before the gossiper is discovered and then people avoid that gossiper.Anyone who talks about anyone else's business is a gossiper.Those people don't make good friends.

Continually Dump on a Friend-

Dumping is not the same as sharing the problems with a friend. Dumping is an event that seems to be something a certain kind of person is able to do. The negative things happen to everyone, but with the person that dumps they save up and sometimes even make things up to unload continually on a person.This is a really easy way to lose a friend.The person that dumps will repeat some of the activities if there is nothing new to dump on a friend.This kind of a person is one who does not have friends for very long and not many friends either.

Lack of Appreciation

Friends help and appreciate one another. There are times when one friend does so much more of those things for another, but some where along the way the other friend should be catching up and take over the lead of those friendship activities. If there is a routine decline over a period of time, you can expect to be out of a friendship if you are on the short end all the time.People who are not somewhat equal in appreciation and support each other are considered "users" and not good friends.The length of time that a user and a giver are friends depends most often times on the giver and how long they are willing to just be friends with a user or someone who does not appreciate them.

Lack of Honesty

Without saying this is on the list of ways to lose a friend. Being honest in all ways is through the threads of life and needed as well as a treasure in a friend. A friend can expect another friend to be trust worthy at all times. Without honesty in little things a friend begins to wonder what big things have not had honesty in the core of that friendship.It is not long before friends find out and uncover a person who is not or has not been honest.Lack of honesty can be a strong reason why a person does not want to be friends anymore.

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dptstretch 11/1/2012
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I'm just thinking...I don't want to lose any friends...I have a few relatives that I can't seem to shake tho' :)
dptstretch 7/23/2012
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All sorts of ways to damage any trust that has built up! H5
TigerStripes 7/22/2012
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Yep, any of those would do it done repeatedly. H5!